Reflecting off of a little..
“One of the greatest things in life is to have the ability to think. One of the worst things in life is to have the ability to think.” ~Vic
I am reflecting off of some things and I personally wanted to write some of my thoughts for I know it could bring value to someone out there.
One of the greatest things in life is to have the ability to think. If you can pause, sit, and reflect off of your own thoughts and work your way to finding the courage to stop lying to yourself you can create such an amazing new reality for yourself.. a new beginning. In order to create a new beginning you first have to practice getting through your own thoughtful lies that you not only keep telling yourself, but you have to find a way to start telling yourself the truth as to why you are where you are and why you are who you are because of your own actions. (I will talk more about this in a second.)
Now, one of the worst things in life is to have the ability to think. What? Let me explain. If you cannot work your way through your own thoughts changing for the better then you will keep recycling your same old experiences. Why? Because to put it simply “if nothing changes nothing changes.” Meaning: If you keep driving in circles and you are wondering why you can’t reach the destination that is right in front of you, then you cannot and you will not ever find yourself moving forward.
One day I will personally write a book talking more in depth about a very ugly experience of mine. There was a time where I had gone through a really hard troubling time with my mental health. To say the least reflecting back on a lot just from this one particular experience I am grateful to have in my eyes miraculously found the courage, the patience, and the faith that ultimately has lead me here. Why did I mention this? Because I want you to know that what I write it is coming from a place of someone who understands and has overcame their path. “It is one thing to know the path, but it is another to have gone through it.” ~Victortheinspiration
When I talk about how we have to pause, sit, and reflect off of our own actions it is because this is what I have found that has personally helped me and if it has helped me I know it can help you too.
We have to pause before reacting. We have to sit on our thoughts before voicing or acting on them. And we have and must reflect off of our own actions. If you don’t pause before reacting you increase your chances of doing something you may later regret and find yourself in a place you cannot undo. Picture your wrong actions like a glass cup. Once The glass is broken you may be able to put everything together, but the cracks (the wounds) will always be there.
If you don’t sit with your thoughts how can you possibly work your way to better ones? This one is one of the hardest because once your thoughts are telling you things you’d rather wish weren’t there it is really difficult to work your way to positive ones that you eventually within time will understand. If you don’t reflect off of your thoughts and your actions, how could you find your way to move forward? Picture this. If you are driving to the store and you keep hitting/ going over the same pothole over and over again to the point where your engine light goes on. Who should you be mad at? The pothole/ the city, to a certain extent, yes. But no. You would be upset at yourself because if you simply had reflected off of your path from going to the store and driving back to your home you could have prevented your engine light from going on. How? Because you know from your past experiences time and time again “watch out for that pothole.” What I am trying to say (and will work on for later writing) is that if we reflect off of our own actions we can prevent so much of the things that we seem to not understand as to why something keeps happening time and time again.
My 4 life keys are this:
- Have Gratitude
- Have Faith
1. Have Gratitude for the blessings you do have and if you can’t find any here are a few that I 100% know you could be grateful for. If you can breathe, that is a blessing because there is someone in the hospital experiencing their last days right this second. If you can see, that is a blessing because some people are blind. If you can hear, that is a blessing because there are people who are deaf. If you can talk, that is a blessing because some people have to use a device to voice their needs. If you can walk, that is a blessing because there are people who wish they could run being in a wheelchair. The fact that you are reading this, seeing this, and has access to the internet is another blessing because not everyone has what you have.
2. Have Faith that things could get better because they will. I am going to let you in on a little secret though. The way Faith works is you have to participate (meaning put in effort) to the very thing you are praying and hoping for. When God sees you trying and I mean really trying God will start aligning the things you need to not only help you with where you currently are, but God will help you breakthrough your situation helping you every step of the way as you move forward.
3. Learn from what it is you don’t know. Learn from your actions and reflect off of you and who you no longer wish to become. You are your greatest teacher and life lesson, however only if you are willing to learn to better yourself. The best thing you can do is learn from those who are living the way you hope for. If someone is smiling and you know they are genuinely happy, ask them what is it that they do to smile. And if you are anyone like me sometimes the things we hope for (such as having more abundant positive thoughts when I was going through a really hard time with my mental health) is I utilized the internet finding people on YouTube that I knew could help me. Steve Harvey, Tony Robbins, Gary Vee are a few when I seeked warming thoughts. When I wanted tough love and someone to lay it out on me with hard truth I seeked content from Dan Peña, David Goggins and Grant Cardone just to name a few. We live in a world with so much free education that many use their devices for entertainment, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing because laughter is the best medicine, but further your education, especially when you can. You can search up just about anything on YouTube. “How to be more positive” “How to get through life’s toughest moments” “How can I be a better person” “How to…” has the potential to help you, however only if you are willing to learn and actually do the work to help you get from point A to point B.
4. Grow. My utmost favorite saying is “grow through what you go through.” Whatever situation I am in I always tell myself to grow from it. How? Within every challenge we face there lies an opportunity for you to grow. Ex: When I was in the hospital in the ICU I was in a position where I genuinely didn’t think I would wake up to see another light of day the next morning. (Many times I felt like this). In situations such as this it is very hard to think “everything happens for a reason” let alone to even believe to grow from my situation. Did I wake up? I did and many days after too. “Within every challenge lies an opportunity to grow.” This was a challenge and the opportunity within this challenge is I had the opportunity to practice my patience and develop my faith when there had seemed to be no hope. The situations we face on a day to day holds the ability to help deliver us the strengths needed to endure tomorrow.
I hope this was able to bring some form of value to and for you. I love you. I appreciate you, and remember: Grow through what you go through.